I was asked a great question the other day and I wanted to share with everyone. I wanted to give you something to think about when you are thinking about Toasts. The question was, “Should we limit the amount of people who want to give a toast at the reception? What about the rehearsal dinner, should we limit the toasts as well?”
So, I asked besides the bridal party and immediate family, who was going to be in attendance at the rehearsal dinner. There are many traditions to consider, as well as who, when and where. The Parents are going to want to say a little something because of the intimacy, The Grand Parents may chip in at this time as well. Of course the Bride and Groom are going to say a little something. Now at this point I asked, “Do you want to leave a couple of toasts for your Big Day, You know leave a little “Aww Factor” for your reception.” Toasts are such a great way to recap the past and to look into the future. Hearing the same speech twice may take a away from that “Aww Factor” on your Big Day. Most Best Men and Maids of Honor like to embarrass the Bride and Groom a little in front of a big crowd anyways, so maybe keep their toasts for your Wedding Day. There ultimately is no right or wrong answer here. Just remember that this is your time but the Parentals will want to share their pride and joy of your special day as well, so they may give two separate toasts, one on each day. You are their babies no matter how old you get. So again, no really right or wrong answer here, go with your vision of your special day.
Being Spontaneous and letting things “Flow” is a good key to any relationship. I like to live my life like I treat my Wife & Kids, with “Respect, Love and Admiration.” Wishing you the Best Moments Life has to offer. Congratulations on your Wedding Day.
Aloha Kakou..